Why can't I get you to love me?

Have you been in a situation where you asked yourself these questions?

Haven’t I given you everything?  What is wrong with me?  I have showered you with all of my love and certainly all of my attention.  Nothing seems to matter – so I must be doing something wrong.

Maybe I could spend more time . . . money . . . attention on you. Maybe if I lost weight or got a promotion, you would love me.  Maybe if I had some Botox you wouldn’t feel I was so old. Then, I could make you feel younger.

Sound familiar?

Stop the madness! Stop pushing against what you cannot change nor control. We can only be ourselves – always coming from a good place – having integrity, honesty, and compassion.  We can only be kind and understanding – forgiving but for the life of us – no matter what we do we cannot change someone or certainly make anyone love us.

Set your boundaries – guard your heart!

If someone walks out on you – let him go! He was never meant to be a part of who you are to become. He is not on your journey!  He is not meant to be a part of your future. Let him go.  And, with that – let go of any insecurities that hang around with him.  He came and went and was a great teacher.  What did he teach you?  Why did you settle?  Who do you have to become to never ever fall for that again?

You, my friend, are beautiful – special – essential and significant in a plan far greater than you can imagine.

God’s got a plan for you – be yourself, listen to your heart and learn from the experiences that have come your way.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.”
– Reinhold Niebuh



2 thoughts on “Why can't I get you to love me?”

  1. Every time I say this prayer ( believe me it is several times a day) I do feel mental and physical relief of anxiety just knowing that I do not have to be in charge of my life all of the time.

  2. What a message that was so needed today!!!
    I find myself in this mind set so often – wanting to be loved and wondering what do I have to do to find love.
    It is so hard walking this life without someone to share the ups and downs with — hard to grasp that truth that the Lord is always with me — the physical side seems to over ride that fact and I can’t get passed it.
    But I will once again try to trust HIM who knows what’s best.
    Thanks again for sharing!


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