Why Can’t I Get You to Love Me?
I’ll bet I am not the only woman who has asked herself that very question. It reminds me of a particular time in my life that I would rather forget. Sorry guys – this blog is strictly for the girls, but feel free to share it with your daughters and granddaughters.
Why couldn’t I get him to love me? Didn’t I give him everything? I showered him with all of my love, and certainly all of my attention. Nothing seemed to matter, so I must have been doing something wrong.
I remember thinking, “Maybe if I lost weight or got a promotion, you would love me. Maybe if I had some Botox, you wouldn’t feel I was so old. Then, maybe you would feel younger too.”
Stop the madness! Stop pushing against what you cannot change or control. We can only be ourselves – always coming from a good place – having integrity, honesty, and compassion. We can only be kind, understanding and forgiving, but for the life of us, no matter what we do, we cannot change someone or certainly make anyone love us.
Set your boundaries. What are the qualifications of people you let into your life? You don’t have any? “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23
If someone walks out on you – let him go! He was never meant to be a part of who you are to become. He is not on your journey! He is not meant to be a part of your future. Let him go. Send with him any and all of those insecurities that hang around with him.
He came and went and was a great teacher. His greatest lesson is for you to figure out why you settled for less than God wants for you. Who do you have to become to never fall for that again?
You, my friend, are beautiful – special – essential and significant in a plan far greater than you can imagine.
God’s got a plan for you – just be yourself, listen to your heart and learn from the experiences that have come your way.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.”
– Reinhold Niebuh
Amen. Amen. So be it.